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My New Blog

2011-12-06T13:34:00.001-08:00

I should have posted this here months ago, but for the duration of my time at Yale I have moved to a new blog: http://yalechapter.blogspot.com.

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Childhood Scenes

2011-07-21T00:34:00.000-07:00

“Childhood scenes rushed back at me out of the night, strangely close and urgent. Today I know that such memories are the key not to the past, but to the future. I know that the experiences of our lives, when we let God use them, become the mysterious and perfect preparation for the work He will give us to do.” – Corrie Ten Boom, The Hiding Place

It’s Wednesday night, and I am leaving home on Saturday morning. I planned a big farewell party for myself so this week would lead up to a celebration instead of a loss. It is working.

I am sitting alone in the dining room of my sleeping house. All of the belongings coming with me to Connecticut are piled high all around me. Although I have ruthlessly pared down to the bare necessities, the amount of material I must haul across the country is daunting. How will it furnish an entire new life on an opposite shore?

This week I believe I gave away a solid third of my clothes. As I started packing, there were relics from a past life that didn’t seem to have a place in the new chapter. I found the white linen shirt I wore on my first real date. I was fifteen, and my beau took me downtown LA to the California Club for dinner. The shirt had bows on the shoulders; I had purchased it because of the photos I’d seen of my mother on her honeymoon wearing a white shirt with bows on the shoulders. I tried it on. I remembered the intensity of that evening, so in love with my date I could barely breathe as we sat on a terrace shadowed by the beautiful Los Angeles Public Library. There were potted palms around our table and a classical guitarist played in the corner. The memory filled me with remembered love, and I gave the linen shirt away.

Likewise with a white cotton skirt I purchased at age sixteen in an open-air market in the south of France. I was with my dear friend Margaux. The trip came at the end of a painful and miserable academic year I spent in northwestern France, and the purchase marked the return of sunshine and laughter to my life. It also commemorated the advent of my independence – I could travel across foreign countries alone, speak the local language, transact with currency I had earned myself, and make decisions about my wardrobe without consulting anyone. I wore the skirt on walks through Provencal towns and while I read Somerset Maugham on the Mediterranean shore at L’Hôtel Belles Rives on the Cap D’Antibes. F. Scott Fitzgerald lived in that hotel while he wrote Tender is the Night. I remember sitting at the end of the dock alone with a glass of sherry I’d charged to my room while an enormous moon filled the black bay with scintillating light. The water was luminous with pale, cool wonder, and I gazed upon it as if it was all a giant platter being offered to me so I could pick my adventure. The whole world flashed and danced before me on that Mediterranean bay and every inch of it seemed utterly available to me.

Next went a thick wooly grey skirt I’d purchased in a little shop in Vienna at age nineteen. I badly wanted to see Vienna at Christmastime, so during my year abroad in Italy I stopped there for a few days before flying home to spend the holidays with my family in California. The weather was absolutely terrible and freezing – but oh what a pleasure to keep warm in a city designed to let one do so in such gilded luxury. With my friend Lauren I raced over a mile through a slushy blizzard to see Sigmund Freud’s apartment before it closed, wet snow driven sideways into my inadequate clothing as we got lost and more lost. We made it at last, and after the odd tour through the odd doctor’s dwelling decided to spend our evening at the Sacher Hotel sipping muddy coffee and indulging in the famous chocolate torte. I decided the days of a student’s standard for travel attire were over. I saw the skirt in a window, bought it, and contemplated the importance of my life’s aesthetic while I ate my torte. If I desired beauty, then for beauty I would labor.

I also discarded a red and blue skirt I wore on a tour of Morocco with my brother at age twenty-one, my first real rough-and-tumble jaunt through a really foreign land. I wore it while the locals gawked and snickered at us when we were served sheep’s brains and when a monkey climbed up my body while I was buying spices for my mother. I discarded some kakhis I pulled out of the end-of-the-term Goodwill box in my boarding school dormitory, an old boyfriend’s lacrosse shorts, the first designer dress I bought in Paris.

I have continued to dig and pack and give away. In the course of this personal archaeology, this move seems to be as much about the past as it is about the future. These items are monuments to the instances of great change in my life, and they have had their time. As I sort my things, I am breathless to find over and over again the same thing: I have gotten what I wanted. I sought adventure and romance and I have gotten it. I have ached for understanding and scraped away at hard fact to find real Truth. I have left and I have returned, I have gotten together and broken up.

At age twenty-five, I feel I am just reaching a critical mass of memories to begin proving that God’s promises are, in fact, true. As memories continue to race through my mind, I understand that they are not being sent to me by mere Nostalgia, but by Hope itself – that I might be buoyed up into a more stately mansion by the goodness they prove.

2011-07-20T00:38:00.000-07:00

"How poor they are that have not patience? What wound did ever heal but by degrees?" - Shakespeare

Maid and Mother

2011-07-13T00:25:00.001-07:00

I am amused tonight to look back over my old posts on this blog. I established this little space to use as a storyboard, I suppose. If I could throw my hopes and ideas and worries upon this black square maybe I’d be able to stand back, observe them, understand them, and in a flurry move all the index cards this way and that until the story included the three acts, the joys and sorrows, the character development, the action, the intensity, the romance that I wanted.

Many of my last posts were about the “blank slate” I was facing after I left my job at the Pepperdine law school to live at home and “take my time about things” for the duration of one year. I entered the time with very few actual goals. I wanted to apply for and be admitted to a graduate program, both of which, praise the Lord, have come to pass. But other than that, I think my aim was to make peace with two of my “selves” who seemed to constantly push against one another – the one that aches to sit, observe, pray, and listen, and the one that never stops striving to win, achieve, see, do, and dominate.

Shortly before his conversion to Christianity, C. S. Lewis wrote a poem called “Reason.” I’ve copied the first fourteen lines here:

Set on the soul’s acropolis the reason stands

A virgin arm’d, commercing with celestial light,

And he who sins against her has defiled his own

Virginity; no cleansing makes his garment white;

So clear is reason. But how dark, imagining,

Warm, dark, obscure and infinite, daughter of Night:

Dark is her brow, the beauty of her eyes with sleep

Is loaded, and her pains are long, and her delight.

Tempt not Athene. Wound not in her fertile pains

Demeter, not rebel against her mother-right.

Oh who will reconcile in me both maid and mother,

Who will make in me a concord of the depth and height?

Who make imagination’s dim exploring touch

Ever report the same as intellectual sight?

(Before I continue, I must give credit to Malcolm Guite for first drawing my attention to this poem and explaining the meaning of the “maid and mother” paradox I will discuss below. His excellent essay about which is in the Cambridge Companion to C.S. Lewis.)

Lewis begins by discussing the stark world of “reason” – the Athens of the soul. The part that looks logically upon all things. The part that looks upon the defiled and determines that “no cleansing can make his garment white.” The “maid.”

Lewis then uses a delicious succession of adjectives to describe the alternative: “warm, dark, obscure and infinite…/her pains are long, and her delight.” The “mother.” The part that imagines and hopes for the unreasonable. The foggy part that seems to constantly be in a state of vague yet formidable longing.

However shall these warring components of our souls make peace? This particular wording is essential – the Virgin Mary, of course, was both maid and mother when Christ was born. In Him, through her, cold logic and warm imagination not only coexist but are dependent on one another. Let us here feel the weight of the word “reconciliation.” In the name of Love, our faults are reconciled against the debt we owe. In the name of love, our contradictory desires in life no longer battle but pull one another ever higher and higher. In the name of Love, two truths that disagree meet in Truth.

During my “year off,” I did not take a road trip across the United States. I did not backpack Southeast Asia. I did not write a novel. What did I do? I fasted.

Technically my fasting lasted from Ash Wednesday until Easter (I did the Daniel Fast for the duration of Lent), but truly this entire year has been a fast from the lifestyle I have lead for as long as I can remember. Except for my grad school applications, I competed for absolutely nothing and had no practical responsibilities whatsoever.

Donald S. Whitney says fasting "hoists the sails of the soul in hopes of catching the gracious winds of God's spirit." And oh, have I. This year my sails have learned to undulate with billowing gusts of grace upon grace as they slice through the wild and untamed winds of God’s spirit. My spirit is unburdened and trusting, and I have never felt more humble or more empowered at the same time. I have never felt more free yet more controlled. See? Paradox.

I once read about a Sufi master who taught, "One has achieved wisdom when he experiences immediate joy when sudden disappointment hits." I'm still working on the "immediate" part, but I learned this year that sorrow is, in the long run, an occasion for greater joy. Anxiety is an opportunity for reconciliation, and conviction of wrongs only the arrival of hope that all paths will be made straight. This year my restless heart has found its true rest. As I jump back into busy life, I pray this peace will endure. But if not, I will speak praise for the more stately chambers my God will urge my soul to one day inhabit.

The Advent Color

2010-12-05T20:50:00.000-08:00

I heard a wonderful sermon this morning. Title: "On Hiding." At the moment of the First Tragedy, when man first disobeyed God, man hid.

In his temptation speech, the serpent promises that eating the forbidden fruit will make man like God. God knew all about good and evil; if we, too, knew about it, we would be just like Him. But evil always, always lies.

Adam and Eve immediately felt shame. Pastor Thompson said this morning that shame is what we feel when we're made painfully aware of the vast disparity between our idealized self and our actual self. The chasm between the two is so wide. Adam and Eve had been promised they would be like God Himself; I cannot imagine their horror when they realized how little like God they were. They had never been aware of their own smallness, their own weakness, the vast difference between mighty God and puny man. The shame must have been unbearable. They must have hidden out of desperation and agony. Having suddenly and all at once seen the full difference between myself and God, I would have tried to bury myself underground.

We need to talk about this story before we begin the preparations of the Advent season. As Pope Benedict XVI said in his homily on the first Sunday of Advent in 2008, "Advent is the spiritual season of hope par excellence, and in this season the whole Church is called to be hope, for itself and for the world. The whole spiritual organism of the mystical body assumes, as it were, the 'color' of hope." What is the story behind this hope? Hope for what?

It is the fire that has burned within man since the fall of the first couple - the ache to close the gap between ourselves as we wish we were and ourselves as we are, the ache to regain the closeness between man and God we know we should enjoy, and the longing to forsake the burden of the incessant game of hide and seek our shame makes us play.

The Church has created the four weeks of Advent for the mystical body of Christ to assume the color of hope. The shame of the past year is meant to be felt in this time, but only so we can understand what occurred on the first Christmas morning. At this time it is essential that we meditate on what comes to us in the Christ Child. Our shame is lifted. We are coaxed out of hiding. And although we walk in the knowledge of our massive inferiority to the God we could never hope to resemble, Jesus bestows upon us the fullness of his own righteousness. We are not brought out from the hiding place to stand guiltily before God with our heads bowed like a disobedient child whose parent has decided his child's shame is punishment enough - we are brought out before God to look Him directly in the eye and embrace, to be celebrated, adored, cherished and loved. There is no more shame. There is no more chasm.

Has anyone ever felt this gift in fullness? Has anyone truly spent a day in full belief that his every sin and weakness is nullified? I do not know. Maybe this gift is one we will not be able to fully understand until death. But as I enter this Advent season, the joy of the hope of Christ wells up within me and overflows. What is the color of hope? It looks like celebration, rejoicing, feasting, behaving generously, carrying a song in one's heart - and even making our homes shine and sparkle, having parties, staying up late, filling the neighborhood with light and music.

Sometimes the best we can do is to behave as if this promise was true. Even in the bleakest of my Advent seasons, the mystery of this hopeful time has caught me off guard with a rush of tears in the middle of a church service, or when I'm sitting alone late at night in the still glow of Christmas lights. Perhaps we cannot make our feeble selves aware of the weight of this miracle. That is okay. God is only too happy to step in and lead us through it. And so we celebrate, and we wait. We make our best music, dress our children and our selves in our finest clothes, feast on the richest food, open our homes to our dearest friends and family. It is in man's custom to respond to joy in this way. This is how we assume the color of hope. This is how we celebrate Christmas.

Love Calls Us to the Things of This World

2010-07-22T09:20:00.000-07:00

by Richard Wilbur

The eyes open to a cry of pulleys,
And spirited from sleep, the astounded soul
Hangs for a moment bodiless and simple
As false dawn.

Outside the open window
The morning air is all awash with angels.

Some are in bed-sheets, some are in blouses,
Some are in smocks: but truly there they are.

Now they are rising together in calm swells
Of halcyon feeling, filling whatever they wear
With the deep joy of their impersonal breathing;

Now they are flying in place, conveying
The terrible speed of their omnipresence, moving
And staying like white water; and now of a sudden
They swoon down into so rapt a quiet
That nobody seems to be there.

The soul shrinks
From all that it is about to remember,
From the punctual rape of every blessed day,
And cries,

"Oh, let there be nothing on earth but laundry,
Nothing but rosy hands in the rising steam
And clear dances done in the sight of heaven."

Yet, as the sun acknowledges
With a warm look the world's hunks and colors,
The soul descends once more in bitter love
To accept the waking body, saying now
In a changed voice as the man yawns and rises,

"Bring them down from their ruddy gallows;
Let there be clean linen for the backs of thieves;
Let lovers go fresh and sweet to be undone,
And the heaviest nuns walk in a pure floating
Of dark habits,
keeping their difficult balance."

The Nocturnal Art

2010-06-20T23:02:00.000-07:00

From "The Giant" by G.K. Chesterton

"I sometimes fancy that every great city must have been built by night. At least, it is only at night that every part of a great city is great. All architecture is great architecture after sunset; perhaps architecture is really a nocturnal art, like the art of fireworks. At least, I think many people of those nobler trades that work by night (journalists, policemen, burglars, coffee-stall keepers, and such mistaken enthusiasts as refuse to go home till morning) must often have stood admiring some black bulk of building with a crown of battlements or a crest of spires and then burst into tears at daybreak to discover that it was only a haberdasher's shop with huge gold letters across the face of it."

The Lady and the Unicorn

2010-03-20T14:46:00.000-07:00

“I suppose that making a sandwich out of a baguette will come in good time.”

I wrote this in my journal on the first day I spent in Paris when I began my year abroad on September 6, 2002. I had been told by Great Aunt Sandy to make myself a sandwich in the kitchen and disastrously failed to construct a sandwich out of the baguette I’d just purchased. I ate all of the sandwich elements separately and quickly – it’s really not readily apparent how this delicate spongey bread can be used to support a sandwich. The entry begins, “How strange it is to be here. Air Canada flight 790, destination Paris. I’m all alone, way up here, so, so far from everything I have ever known or loved. And to think – nine long months until I see it again… I expected to feel so big and grown up and independent, but if the truth were told I have never felt littler. And so it begins.”

I had nothing to do today. I got locked out of the house last night and had to camp in the yard, so I’ve been dreamy and exhausted. Lucky, perhaps; otherwise I imagine I would have tried to do something productive and instead I just loafed around and read. Turning to my altar-bookcase that surrounds the fireplace in the family room, I selected A Year in the World by Frances Mayes. I did so in anticipation of the June first end date of my job and the completely – completely – blank slate that sits (sometimes invitingly, sometimes menacingly) on the other side. Actually, I’ll choose blank canvas instead. Blank canvas that waits on the other side of June first.

That’s just what I hope to do. Turn my slate-and-chalk Executive Assistant self back into a canvas and palette of limitless oils ready to be altered in hue, tone, consistency, combination, employ.

My September 9, 2002 entry in my year-in-France journal tells the story of my first walk down the damp aisle of the marché on the Avenue de Versailles, located a few hundred yards from my cousin Susan’s apartment on the Rue Claude Lorrain in the siesieme. I wrote about the first croissant I purchased on my own, pulled with a wooden paddle from a polished oven onto a square of thick floral paper that was placed directly in my palm. There were smells of seafood in the market; flowers coyly nestled in newspaper cones in the arms of pedestrians; the antics of my colorful European cousins; my first taxi ride spinning through the tree-lined streets and, breathtakingly, along the Seine (so nonchalantly, as if this was a route really used by jaded Parisians to commute from one place to another). With the help of Frances Mayes and the unblinking stare of the impeding block of free time, I’m reflective tonight about passion. How it grows, how it fades, why it matters, what it’s for. And just how, in fact, its pursuit can be justified in place of so many other things one feels bound to do.

That week Great Aunt Sandy took me to La Musée National du Moyen Age. “After a long walk through the labyrinthine paths in the garden carpeted in sporadically descending damp autumn leaves,” I wrote, “we ourselves flitted down seemingly endless granite steps in to the belly of a beautiful, intricate, medieval fortress – complete with gargoyles.” In her bitingly crisp South Kensington English, she commented before a display of ornate reliquaries, “meant for, you know, a bone, a lock of hair, the odd eyeball, that sort of thing. Rather morbid in my personal evaluation.”

We wandered through corridor after corridor of illuminated manuscripts, suits of armor, crowns and scepters, weaponry, needlework that presented themselves to me as portals for the imagination to travel through time to places every bit as close as those dream-worlds I’d been visiting since childhood. The rooms were dimly lit and musty, the stones enclosing them cold and ancient. I lost my breath when I caught out of the corner of my eye a circular room showcasing the famous Lady and the Unicorn tapestries – six of them, one for each of the senses, and one entitled, “A Mon Seul Desire.” My own senses – those organs I relied on to tell me truth from fantasy – had betrayed me and shown me a reality that much more closely resembled the product of my silly childish imagination than anything heretofore considered real. I was undeniably certain that this territory was familiar, oddly. No, I had never felt more alone, more uncertain of my surroundings, or more out of place, and yet something in my heart was experiencing a homecoming. Swift flashes of memory – mostly music, books, dreams – convinced me that I had been here before. Not here, but – in essence – in this state or place. Could it be – it was certainly so that afternoon - that memory, reality, and imagination are not as distinct from one another as we might believe?

I was very far from Southern California with no tie to my personal history. That moist and cool early-autumn afternoon, I felt a chamber open up inside my soul; my careful and exceptionally well-attended upbringing formed a granite foundation, but the shutters about the windows of my selfhood we unlatched and flung wide to greet things that I had known always even as I discovered them.

That night at dinner cousins Susan and Johnny (both in their 50s) and Great Aunt Sandy (elegantly mid 80s) and I sat around a tiny table in the tiny kitchen and feasted royally on beef and wine and vegetables. The rain started and stopped outside, pattering like wings on the tall chestnut trees in the courtyard outside, their highest branches just at our feet when we stood on the sixth-floor balcony. A hush fell over the table when Susan stopped to look at me, picked up her glass, and, in lucid Italian, called into the cool autumn night to my grandfather, her Zione Umberto (Uncle Robert), “Zione, come look at your beautiful granddaughter Catherine. Aren’t you proud? Come in and laugh with us again.” She toasted in the direction of the little stone Polish church (where, six years later, Aunt Sandy’s memorial service would be held – a more somber visit for an older me) and motioned for him to come in.

Unknowingly, Susan’s invitation to the spirit of my grandfather had struck the one note whose waxing resonance in my heart’s most secret chambers had driven me to make this journey. He died suddenly of a heart attack a few months before my older brother was born, and yet his presence in our home, my heart, my dreams had – has – a power over me I cannot explain. His degrees from Cambridge and Columbia had always hung in my bedroom, along with his certificate from the Foreign Service and the United States Army. His portrait was in our living room, and I used to stare deeply into the soft black eyes so full of movement and depth and relationship.

My love for Robert was an ache that filled me simultaneously with sorrow and drive. I never knew this man, and yet I could imagine him and his world into being effortlessly – an act that directed my steps and dreams more than any other “real” thing or influence. That night in Susan and Sandy’s tiny Parisian kitchen over glasses of sherry I had discovered people who had participated in the flesh in that in which I had participated in spirit for my entire life. And yet I was certain that my acquaintance with Robert was no less real than theirs. I was breathless, and I wept that night knowing that the grandfather I laughed with in my dreams was no phantom.

Isn’t it arresting when we meet people or see things that validate our imagination? Our deep longings are the source of our dreams, and they do not come from nothing.

I am learning that this is the nature of faith. Memory, longing, imagination, and reality – these are the tools we are to combine as we search for Truth. When canvases are blank and desire and anxiety fill us with fear, we might benefit more from looking backward and inward than from the impossible task of looking ahead. Faith is forged in so many meaningful ways – prescience is not one of them.

Imagine how Jesus’ friends and followers must have felt when they saw him after his resurrection. They had longed for his promise to be true; his death, though consistent with his word, convinced them that reality – the things they saw and heard and touched – was stronger that everything they had hoped for, believed, dreamed about while Christ was alive. Then in that one instant, their senses confirmed what their hearts had hoped and believed. Ah. This phenomenon has not ceased.

To turn back to the blank canvas - it is my task not to create and accomplish as much as it is to remember and believe. To keep flinging wide the shutters and seeing what old familiar dreams can shatter my meandering, fickle reality with their weight.

The Burning Ladder by Dana Gioia

2009-12-08T09:14:00.000-08:00

Jacob
never climbed the ladder
burning in his dream. Sleep
pressed him like a stone
in the dust,
and when
he should have risen
like a flame to join
that choir, he was sick
of travelling,
and closed
his eyes to the Seraphim
ascending, unconscious
of the impossible distances
between their steps,
missed
them mount the brilliant
ladder, slowly disappearing
into the scattered light
between the stars,
slept
through it all, a stone
upon a stone pillow,
shivering. Gravity
always greater than desire.

The Terrible Self

2009-09-15T01:37:00.000-07:00

“I think what weakens people most is fear of wasting their strength." - Etty Hillesum

I doubt that I have ever been so uncertain about what I want to “do with my life.” By this, of course, I mean choosing a career path. I oscillate between yearning to do everything and being sickeningly uninterested in anything; the pace of my current situation is bewildering, and I often reflect that I don’t even have the time or self-possession to want. The relationship between my directionless ambling and the waning opportunity for reflection and prayer is obvious.

Firstly, I’d like to address the rhetorical structure that has us expressing the means by which we cover expenses as what we “do with our lives.” Part of me hopes my job will never be so defining. There is so much to a human beyond the work he does. I resent the work that runs my life, and yet I feel in some way it glorifies me. There are essential elements that run deep; I wonder how to finesse this paradox.

The other night I heard a man talk about the divine nature of inherited work. In the creation story in Genesis, our first picture of God pictures a being moving from resting to working. The Spirit was, and then the Spirit began making. And boy, did He make. I won’t rehash the awe inspired in me by the Planet Earth series, but will note that these images (and think how much more revelatory they will become as technology advances) show me much about the character of God. The intricacies of growth and death, reproduction, relationships, predators and prey, and the seemingly pointless displays of beauty that exceed the comprehensive capacity of the eye and must be taken in by the heart. There is power and terror, and fragility and delicacy. The physical world ranges the full spectrum; just as God is simultaneously everything created and was once a microscopic speck of cellular material in Mary’s womb; just as He is a pillar of fire and the still small voice quieter than a whisper. This work of God’s is a reflection of a character, a personality, a self.

The first thing Adam was asked to do? Work. Name the animals. Exercise dominion. Build stuff. Make stuff. And Eve? Not a companion – a helper. Work gives us the opportunity to participate in the proliferation of the self of God, and it invites us to model our own (comparatively menial, yes) creations after our self. Oh – I do not want to miss out on this.

There are a few outliers in my midst whose occupations do indeed contain something essential about their being. I think of filmmakers I know, stay at home moms, those who serve the underserved, one or two of the doctors I know, maybe a horse trainer I knew once came close, a teacher. There are some whose careers are characterized by the selfhood of the worker – ah, how I long to be one of these.

This longing is paralyzing. I hate the thought of taking a step toward one option that will leave part of my selfhood behind. One path allows me to analyze but stifles the artist, another indulges creativity but abandons order, one feeds my curiosity but cuts me off from people, another overwhelms my spirit by overcrowding it with personnel and bottom lines. I refer to Etty Hillesum as listed above: “I think what weakens people most is fear of wasting their strength.” Weakens? Destroys.

This might be rooted in the mystifying human condition I’ve talked about before – a divine, eternal soul stuck inside a deteriorating flesh with only a few fatty brain cells and trembling synaptic cords to try to bring the two together. I am intimidated by my selfhood. It has a grandness so far beyond anything I can imagine, and I make myself crazy trying to invent some catchall scenario that will allow this divine selfhood that seems so distant to do a work that will reflect the worker.

I think I include this quotation in every other post: “For you have created us for yourself, and our hearts are restless until they find their rest in you.” Thank you, St. Augustine. Tonight I use this to gain perspective on myself not just as a worker but as a work as well. I was created. Thus, the image I bear reflects that of my Creator. And this – THIS is the seal I ache to press into the soft and feeble wax statues I spend my life fussing and worrying about.

Ayn Rand chimes in, "Why do they always teach us that it's easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline to restrain ourselves? It's the hardest thing in the world--to do what we want. And it takes the greatest kind of courage. I mean, what we really want." We really want to create with significance. To contribute. What we really want, in essence, is to be a part of the great work – to build something that bears the mark of the Creator whose face we wear in a way that does not submit our individuality to erasure but rather shines as a testimony to its magnificence.

I suppose we’re left with that old instruction: seek ye first the kingdom of God. Therein the selfhood lies. There is the work we can do that is actually “what we do with our lives.”

Etty also offers, “Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths.” Sometimes I suppose that’s true.

Desire

2009-07-31T18:11:00.001-07:00

Our desire must be like a slow and stately ship, sailing across endless oceans, never in search of safe anchorage. Then suddenly, unexpectedly, it will find mooring for a moment.

- Etty Hillesum

Dinner

2009-06-30T14:34:00.000-07:00

"People eat their dinner, just eat their dinner, and all the time their happiness is being established or their lives are being broken up." - Chekhov

Off Again

2009-06-28T15:55:00.001-07:00

It’s my last Sunday afternoon at home before I take off on a month-long voyage abroad. These adventures have become a bit of a routine – I haven’t had a summer without an extended solo trip overseas in six years. I woke up this morning with what has become the familiar pre-trip feeling: so excited about the adventures ahead, but a frightening and frantic need to peel back the sheets to embrace the family I will soon leave. The chaotic urgency of my need to love them is oddly silenced the moment I actually see a member of my family, the same way a huge horse can soar across a pasture in a frolicking, bucking gallop and bounce to an instant halt with its forelegs just inches from the fence. I instantly default to playing it cool, often erring even on the side of appearing distant. And yet my entire chest cavity seems to swim with heat and tightness as I deliver an intentionally half-hearted good morning hug, ensuring that I guard the terrible, shameful secret that my heart is breaking with love and longing.

Right now I am sitting on one of the loungers by the pool in the backyard. It’s 75 degrees outside, cool breeze blowing, ambient noise of water flowing around in the pool, occasionally the lazy and distant chug of a radial airplane engine traversing our sky space. My brother is on the lounger next to me going through a test prep book for the entrance exam into the National Guard. My dad is on a chair behind us (he recently crossed over to that side to follow the sliding shade from the umbrella) reading Steve Forbes’ new book that compares modern corporations to great empires throughout history (I gave it to Ian for his birthday, and dad – who reads about 50 pages a minute – swiped it up first, as he often does). The cat is crashed out in the shady grass next to him, lying on his back with his white fluffy cat-tummy bared to the breezes. There’s a pile of silenced iPhones and Blackberries on the table between the three of us, as well as small silver trays with empty dishes from brunch.

Ian just stood up and said, “Will you be sad if I go sit at the table?” The table is about 15 feet away. I smile and answer, “Of course not.” But it does make me sad when he goes and the chair beside me is now empty. I swallow it, however – I think my impending voyage for a month-long stint in the Middle East divests me of my right to keep him from his 15-foot displacement for the next half hour. But I miss him somehow as I look over at his deeply concentrated little face over there.

My mom and I spent a lovely morning together in quiet and easy conversation, intermittently confessing shy sentiments of contentment to one another. We were geographically located in the epicenter of six or seven unfinished remodeling projects and countless others that had yet to be tackled. We’ve had upwards of twenty people come out to give an estimate on the kitchen remodel we keep putting off. I was sitting on a little sofa mother happened upon one day at the Jewish women’s charity thrift shop on Wilshire one day – it was used as patio furniture on the porch of the house I lived in my senior year of college and had settled in our breakfast nook when I moved back home after graduation. Not the piece we imagined for so prominent a place in our home, but mother expresses our sentiments perfectly when she sits there with her laptop and a cup of coffee and pretends she’s on a cruise ship looking out at the backyard through the window next to her. It’s a great little sofa.

Mom says it well when she exclaims that we are “cursed with contentment.”

It has been a recent struggle of mine to try to examine the meaning of the phrase “full of life.” Because of the fullness of the relationship I have with Him, I am satisfied to count the phrase “full in Christ” a synonym. But to explore that, to give it gravity by giving it words – ah, I am inept.

I look at it this way: here I sit in the same backyard I’ve sat in since I was thirteen. From my vantage point, I see the patio table, the pool slide we were never really young enough to enjoy in this house, the now-empty flowerbed I once labored for an entire summer to fill with blossoms, and the back of our house. As I take in the scene, my muscles twitch with the desire to dance about, swiping a mental butterfly net this way and that in an effort to capture and bottle all the memories that linger in the atmosphere of this 1/8 of an acre. I can watch the countless backyard dinner parties like a movie montage, in addition to many anguish-wrought nights writing by candlelight at the table or in the wrought iron chairs by the ivy covered wall. I watch myself finishing Somerset Maugham novels, flipping through Vogue, sitting in the middle of the line of all the cousins at my grandmother’s memorial service, refilling the punch bowl at my brother’s Eagle Scout ceremony, coming downstairs for lavish brunches (nobody can pull these together like Judith Whittinghill) on special or just normal Saturdays. I can spread my arms wide and splay my fingers and somehow grab the jasmine-scented air, pulling downward and wrapping it around me like a blanket.

These long summer sits in the backyard are like jumping on a trampoline. Usually they are the scenes of dreaming, planning, building, preparing – altogether springing up and out. But every once in a while, my bounce matches up with my fellow jumpers’ bounces just right (they have changed nothing about their bouncing pattern to bring this about), and instead of soaring up over the rooftops my knees buckle and I’m sucked into the floor with black-hole strength gravity. I land softly, cushioned and cradled, and all upward and outward momentum is, for a millisecond, sucked out of me completely. And then I am content, filled to overflowing with the fullness of life as I take a little break from the jumping, lying on my back as the trampoline settles to stillness and looking up at the sky. I see that I do these adventures because I do them, not because I need them or because I am searching for something. This little house here is teeming with life – it’s a wonder the roofbeams can contain it. It drips out of the windows, pours out the front door. It is life and life abundantly. It is love that both cradles and launches, love that simultaneously crushes your heart inward like an empty coke can and bursts forth in an explosion. Love that forgives, hopes, gives, and does not fear. Oh, how content am I.

See a Palace Rise From a Two-Room Flat

2009-06-04T22:51:00.000-07:00

It astonishes me to imagine the way my life will change when the time comes to bind it with another’s. I just returned from seeing Up – a movie that, like all Pixar flicks surreptitiously do, caught me off guard with the profundity of its sweetness. Pixar is the one company of which I am aware that can fill our hearts and televisions with purity, make us reflect on the deeper things, challenge our imaginations with creative nuance, and still rake in millions at the box office. Ah, world, there is hope for you yet.

The movie was about marriage. It was about men and what they deeply want, women and their hidden longing, and the human need to – as George Bailey described to his blushing Mary – “lasso the moon” for his spouse.

The film begins with a quick and silent montage that tells the story of an entire marriage, from beginning to end. The couple meets as children when the gap-toothed redheaded girl steals the boy’s heart with her vivid imagination and thirst for adventure. As the two marry and age, about ninety seconds of footage chronicle all of the dreams the couple shares through the decades. Some are realized, but most are not. The man seems not to notice his wife age a day until all of the sudden she is expiring, and he is caught unawares by her sudden inability to realize the adventures they’d imagined in their youth.

He is torn to pieces because he could never seem to make the adventure come together for her. She had dreamt as a girl of building a house in the jungle of South America, so he sets out to grant her childhood dream after she has passed away. He will stop at nothing to accomplish this for his bride.

And this is the characteristic common to all men. It is manifested in myriad ways, but men all ache to build and create, travel and accomplish, see, do, climb, and conquer – but all for the sake of the queen whose heart they covet, worked for, have sworn to protect, and, above all, love with every fiber of their being. Men want the world for their wives.

I saw the movie with my brother and father. They grimaced as they watched as the husband in the film had to spend their waxing “adventure fund” on automotive repairs, to fix the leaky roof, etc. It killed them to watch this man finally decide to take his wife to the Amazon, only to find she was unable to make the trip. What marvelous men I live with.

And now to women. After he has finally accomplished his goal and physically transplanted their house to the specific place in the jungle his wife imagined as a girl, he finds a notebook of hers with new pictures inserted in the “adventures I’m going to have” section she began as a kid. In it are pictures of their wedding, little road trips they took, nights in the family room, mornings reading by the front windows, weekends doing yard work. These were the adventures she dreamt of. Loving him, building a life with him, putting personal touches on their quirky house – that was the adventure of her life. She liked to let her imagination run wild on the precipices of rushing waterfalls and in the verdant roots of steamy jungle floors, but her heart was not tied to these.

And this is what women give: they deal tenderly with the dreams of their men. They give him a soft place to land after he spends his day climbing, striving, building. Don’t get me wrong – women certainly do these things too, often to a greater degree, but this is how I perceive the roles when the workday is over, the front and back doors are locked for the night, and the household is quiet. Women see the fulfillment and adventure in building things that sometimes appear quiet and plain, but hold all the meaning our blink of life can contain. A man wants to give his wife the world. But a woman knows she already possess it because she has a man who will labor for a lifetime to give it to her.

It’s stated well in that beautiful song from Cabaret:

“How the world can change

It can change like that,

Due to one little word: marriage.

See a palace rise

From a two-room flat,

Due to one little word: marriage.

And the old despair

That was often there

Suddenly ceases to be.

For you wake one day,

Look around, and say,

‘Somebody wonderful married me.’”

Perhaps this will be for me someday, perhaps it won’t. This discussion interests me as it concerns the comparison in the Bible between a good marriage and the relationship between Christ and man. The bride-groom relationship is just like the man-God relationship in this respect, and in many others.

The male and female roles described above coexist perfectly within the person of Christ. On one hand, Jesus is the comforter, the one who reminds us of our constant fulfillment within his love for us. When our dreams don’t pan out and the world disappoints us (as is nearly always does), Christ is there to present the eternal truths of love, joy, hope, and peace as reminders that all is well in spite of our frustrating circumstances. And yet he is also there with us as we cling to rocky mountain faces, racing toward our high-dollar dreams. He encourages us to take adventures, he blesses our petitions, he created this endless universe for us to explore, dominate, enjoy, and use. And he longs to give it to us, to grant us our every wish, to love and nurture us, his bride.

In Christ, as in a good marriage, we inherit the palace of God’s kingdom, be it indeed a castle on a cloud or, simply put, a two-room flat.

Servant

2009-05-18T23:03:00.000-07:00

Have you ever been in a situation where you're with someone you love more than your own life but you just can't find the way to say it? Or worse, as you circle around that perfect expression this person denies you? "Oh no you don't," or "Don't say that," or "I don't believe you," or "Someone like you could never love someone like me." Ouch.

Tom Shadyac is my hero. He has boiled down the purpose of his existence to this: “I live to serve the divine idea.”

I am not uncomfortable calling the “Divine Idea” God, although it tracks with my theology to leave my Lord, Creator, and Sustainer nameless – He actually wanted it this way, I think. So I would say, “I exist to serve God.”

Tom was the first person who was able to communicate to me exactly what it meant to pursue happiness. In the same way he believes we vote with every dollar we spend, he also believes who choose freedom or captivity with every choice we make, every bit of energy we emit into our surroundings, and every word we speak over our own situations. It’s amazing and true, and empowering in the way only true humility can be.

I got to know Tom by accidentally enrolling in a screenwriting class he taught at Pepperdine. After my first minutes in the same room with this man, I was hooked. I have subsequently taken three other film classes from him. In addition to a thousand lessons about life and meaning, Tom has taught me that the one non-negotiable for a great movie is that it must be about “One Controlling Idea.” So of course, as we struggled through pages and pages of shaky dialogue and awkward descriptions of shots, the process naturally made us try to link every line of writing to this controlling idea.

And just as all the little choices make the big choice for us about whether we shall be free or slave (as Aristotle reminds us, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”), so the themes of our creative endeavors compose the controlling ideas for our lives.

It’s hard to imagine a scenario where servanthood embodies the fulfillment of freedom. True, fully realized freedom. But, ah, the bliss of bowing at the feet of the truly deserving.

The deserving is you, oh Christ. Only in service to you can we be certain that our actions are utterly right. Only in service to you do we proclaim with unhesitating boldness that we do something worthy, something eternal. Even as we err in our acts of service, which we inevitably do, the pursuit loses no appeal due to the grace we receive in the act.

When someone says, “I love you,” we instinctively respond, “I love you, too,” with the understanding that nobody wishes to confess a feeling of love without immediate affirmation of reciprocation. What’s worse that unrequited love? My mother believes there is something worse. Have you ever told someone you loved them and had them respond, “No, you don’t.” The refusal to receive a declaration of love is far graver than the failure to reciprocate. Sometimes, Mom responds to an “I love you” with a simple, “I know you do.” Oh to feel your love received. Understood. Believed. No more need to keep searching for the right words, to keep striving to construct the perfect description for the love that makes your heart burst and ache. No more wishing you could only make your beloved one really understand how you feel. To utter only, "I love you" to one who responds, "I know you do." And you know they do.

As we serve Christ, He of the incessant inaudible love song, we proclaim love for one who will receive it. In our longing to grow deeper in our communion with our Savior, we offer praise that has a place to land. Our relationship with Him is not just about mutual giving of love but mutual receiving of love.

I find the earthy beings and things I daily strive to serve unsatisfactory receptacles. My heart breaks for people who serve things that will never receive their love. This is when servanthood becomes slavery. I see many relationships where so many givers are bound in shackles to the moods of takers. Or, beyond human-to-human relationships, I see other willing servants who are bound to the demands of an unloving culture, to coolness, to “success,” to the ridiculous requirements they place on themselves. It is tyranny.

We long to be used. We long to contribute. We long to be good enough. We long to hear the voice of Truth say thrillingly, “Yes, YOU, come. YOU are exactly what I have been looking for.” This is why we all yearn for our spouses, for we are somehow convinced this is the only instance where you, specifically you, are the only one who can fulfill the need of another. While good marriages come close, we need not wait for that. This is the call of Christ. He calls to you specifically. He longs for you to serve Him. He longs for you to tell Him you love Him. He waits for you to turn your ears to that love song He’s incessantly singing to you and respond, “I know.” Serve one who will receive your service. Love one who will receive your love. Bind yourself to one who will always leave you free to walk away. Choose freedom by serving the one who is worthy.

"And he who loses his life for my sake shall find it." Matthew 10:39

I started a new job today. My boss isn't Jesus, but he loves Jesus, and he lives to serve. And thus, the hours of greuling service to this man will be blissful, for together we co-labor to serve the one who loves us.

Gladness

2009-05-12T11:52:00.000-07:00

For what else are servants of God, but minstrels, whose work it is to lift up people's hearts and move them to spiritual gladness?

Francis of Assisi

Economy

2009-05-04T15:48:00.000-07:00

Last weekend I made a little road trip to go visit some friends. I had conversation with two friends who got married this summer and moved up north, he to attend Stanford Law and she to begin teaching third grade. They are both smart, funny, and deep. They love Jesus. I adore them.

She had a difficult year learning the ropes but seems to have made a strong impact on her students. I was so proud to hear her talk about the way her heart goes out to her kids, and it made me glad for them. He certainly had his work cut out for him as a first year law student at Stanford. Both are so dedicated. Inspirations to me. She just found out that district budget cuts have left her without employment for next year. He’s heading into his second year. Lots of loans. No free time. No income for next year.

And yet, sitting at coffee with these two people was one of the top three most inspiring things that has happened to me in 2009. They told me the story of filling out their FAFSA forms, leading me through the questions:

Are you a student? Yes

Is your spouse a student? Yes

Have you or your spouse been laid off recently? Yes

Combined annual household income? $0

And so on. Their eyes sparkled as they talked about it. They held hands. She kissed him. They were full of laughter. And that’s because none of that stuff actually matters. They love each other very much. They have found ways to make a strong impact on the needy people around them. They are perfect examples of how to live in an economy of love. And that, I believe, is the meaning of life.

As Anne Sexton says, “For happiness that isn’t shared, I’ve heard, dies young.”

Automotively Challenged

2009-04-20T17:04:00.000-07:00

“I drive a BMW but my dream is to one day own a Hyundai and still be happy.” This is a line from one of my oldest friends. Wisdom that amazes me. Yeah, that’s what I want – what I truly want – too; to spend my life learning how to have more by wanting less.

For most of my senior year of college, I drove a white 1987 Nissan Stanza. It was a funny little car that made deafening scraping vacuum sounds, randomly stopped while in motion (usually just as I cut in front of oncoming traffic making left turns across PCH), had no radio, and had monstrous grey-blue sheepskin seat covers that complimented the royal blue velour interior. All of the fixtures were held together with Velcro. I inherited it when my grandmother passed away.

It replaced an old 1991 Chrysler minivan my parents bought when I started kindergarten – I remember being pretty excited when we got it when I was five, but I guess I didn’t imagine at that age that it would still be my mode of transportation at age twenty-one. The ceiling liner had come completely unglued and it hung like a drapery on the whole roof of the car. Often some electronic connection would falter and all the electric mechanisms in the car would go wild – the gauges would fly back and forth across their trajectories, the electric locks would compulsively flip back and forth, the windshield wipers would wildly scrape and stutter across the dusty cracked glass, and all of the lights would start flashing. The passenger’s door wouldn’t fully close (at times I had to rig up something with the seatbelt to keep it from flying open in turns. The sliding side door wouldn’t open, so everyone in the back had to climb out the trunk. If the RPM dropped too low, the oil pressure would plummet and ran the risk of seizing the engine. The entire family got in the car together to celebrate 350,000 miles on the odometer. No air conditioning. The steering wheel had begun to melt and would leave a greyish residue on your hands about the viscosity of pine sap. Embarrassed doesn’t come close to the way I felt about that van. Mortified comes closer, but still doesn’t capture the sickness that reverberated within my entire rib cage anytime I passed someone I knew. My friends called it “the immigrant van.” It was funny to them, but somehow could not be funny to me. Do we call that pride? I think that’s the word.

There was lots of sorrowful begging for my parents to think of another automotive option for me, but it just wasn’t going to happen and that was that. My mother used to tell me that as soon as I didn’t want a new car anymore a new one would somehow show up in my life. Every time she said this I would excuse myself and go release my fury into a pillow. I don’t know why this was such a big deal for me. I am not an otherwise materialistic person, and while I love clothes I wouldn’t consider myself terribly image-conscious. But anytime the car conversation started, my body would tighten with anger and hatred in a manner no other occasion has ever given it cause to do.

When my grandmother was no longer able to drive, the Nissan passed to me. It was blissful. Anything to get rid of that van. I think the two were really equal in awfulness to the outsider’s eye, but for some reason the Nissan cracked me up where the minivan had made me angry. Perhaps it’s because I chose to take the Nissan where I did not choose the minivan? Perhaps it was the connection to my adored and departed grandmother? I don’t know. But I was fond of it, and didn’t care who saw it or drove around in it or what. No more anger, no more looking for a way out.

And then one weekend my father just up and announced that we were going car shopping. Graduation was a couple of months away, but I already had my graduation gift planned and picked out. We looked at some great used cars, and then for some reason my dad decided to spring for the brand spanking new Mini I’d had my eye on for years. The decision was made in about two days. I guess my mom was right – it just somehow appeared the second I stopped caring.

A roommate once told me about a theory of hers that we long most to be the one thing we can never be.

She said this while we were sitting inside that Nissan in the carport of the mobile home we lived in on Point Dume in Malibu our senior year. We liked to do that periodically, to sit in the car and talk, go for a quick drive around the Point to look at the moon over the glittering Bel Air Bay, somehow create a physical barrier between ourselves and everything we had established that we were inside the house we’d chosen, decorated, and lived in. Our best conversations happened on those drives. This comment referred to a theme that ran through all of the papers I wrote in my English classes. I had this subconscious fascination with nuns, cloistered women, anything in or of a monastery, ascetics, any character who renounced worldly things for a higher spiritual path.

It’s like that Frost poem I included in my last post. My life is running straight toward the varied and exciting land, and I am excited about that. It is where my gifts lie and where my energy comes from. And yet there’s a longing to not care in the least about it. I love the things the world produces, but (while I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that in the least bit – it’s what we were meant for) I wish I didn’t. It’s not the sort of longing that will make me alter my life plans, but the sort that will maintain the incessant tension and tug that will always keep me asking, wondering, yearning, and seeking. And, as I've said before, these are blessed, for what worse thing could there be in life than an end point?

Today I drive a Mini that I adore. My dream is to someday drive a 1991 minivan and love it.

Beach

2009-04-17T11:42:00.000-07:00

Neither Out Far nor In Deep
Robert Frost

The people along the sand
All turn and look one way.
They turn their back on the land.
They look at the sea all day.

As long as it takes to pass
A ship keeps raising its hull;
The wetter ground like glass
Reflects a standing gull

The land may vary more;
But wherever the truth may be--
The water comes ashore,
And the people look at the sea.

They cannot look out far.
They cannot look in deep.
But when was that ever a bar
To any watch they keep?

It is interesting in this poem how Frost describes the people on the beach. He points out that while everything “important” going on happens on land, people somehow can’t stop staring at the ocean. It’s a big, limitless void. Whether we’re supposed to be attending fastidiously to the cares of the world or standing in static contemplation gazing into the blue horizon, there is something about the water that pulls each of us to its edge and asks.

Frost points out that the people standing here staring do not look out far into the future or into the heavens. They do not look deep within themselves, deep within our society. They just sit and watch, unutterable hope, anguish, joy, sorrow, and concern churning within each one, never to find the “local habitation and a name” Shakespeare wrote about. Without words, our “unutterables” remain such, and so we just keep standing on the beach looking out.

There is nothing about our human experience that requires this. There is no job that demands looking out far or in deep. We will never face a task that cannot be done on the surface level. And the longings within us can stay there. Certainly they will manifest themselves in part in the events and choices that compose our lives, but the ache that alternately blesses and tortures writhes unceasingly in a realm over which words exercise no authority.

And yet we are still drawn to believe that “out far” and “in deep” are somehow important. I’m one who can’t seem to tear myself away from the pull of the watery nothingness/everythingness to embrace the world. Frost explains it so well here – to face one it seems we must turn our back on the other.

“For you created us for yourself, and our hearts are restless until they find their rest in you.” – St. Augustine.

Deeper Still

2009-04-15T15:58:00.000-07:00

I spent a good part of this year immersed in a project about the relationship between C.S. Lewis and T.S. Eliot. In case you don’t know, and few people do, the two maintained a close relationship for decades – the majority of which was more than unfriendly, and almost all of the coldness was, contrary to the expectations of many, initiated by Lewis.

When one compares the creative works of these two writers, the tone, mood, and subject matter of Eliot’s poems put him in the same camp as the modern poets whose graphic descriptions of despair and decay would make my stomach turn. I remember so well the modern poetry segment in English classes in high school. My face would contort as I skimmed the pages, lips folded inward between my front teeth, brow wrinkled, eyes intently focused. I don’t remember exactly which poems made me feel this way – probably Ted Hughes and his talk of crows and abortions, DH Lawrence and his weirdness, and, among the most startling, Eliot himself with his sick insistence in “The Hollow Men” that “This is the way the world ends./ Not with a bang but a whimper.”

The word “sick” is probably my best descriptor here. The world these moderns described resembled the one I knew and loved, and yet it seemed diseased, as if someone had taken a ghastly syringe and withdrawn the marrow from the bones of our collective life here. The word “apocalypse” comes to mind Eliot taunts in “The Waste Land,” “I will show you fear in a handful of dust.” It’s about the end. Death. The one toward which we're all racing.

I once heard a lecturer compare the death of Socrates to the death of Jesus. Their deaths are similar in circumstance, for they were both sentenced to death by powerful governments for feeding rebellious ideas to society. Interestingly, the ideas were about humility, which, one would think, would make a people easier to govern. When he drinks the poison ordered upon him, Socrates eases into eternal sleep completely at peace, believing that this was indeed the right time for his life to end and that he would be better off dead. Jesus, on the other hand, writhes in agony on a cross for three hours, pleading with God, “Father, Father, why have you forsaken me?” even though he knew he fulfilled a prophesy that had been ordained for millennia. Now, it’s hard to compare drinking a cup of poison in perfect comfort to the physical torture Jesus endured for days, but I believe there is still room to compare their two reactions to the final moments.

I raise this issue because I believe we are prone to withdraw from circumstances, literary or actual, that do not bear the emblems of our creeds. I want my faith in Jesus to surround me with a force that keeps evil and death far away from me. At an Easter service this Sunday, I sang in “Christ the Lord is Risen Today” (a favorite hymn) the line, “Where, oh death, is now thy sting? Alleluia!”

I’ll show you were thy sting is, oh death.

It’s here. It’s all around. Recently I had a conversation with a Christian who fully expected death for believers to be sweet and easy, much like the death of Socrates, and was undone by the savagery of a body falling apart when a relative died. That’s a sting.

Eliot’s early poems jump right into this deep pit and throw it all on paper. Then Eliot became a Christian. And while the redemption of his soul is apparent in some writings, despair was still there. There was a misty solution to the sorrow, a center point was found, and peace was blissfully within his reach, but much of his writing still depicted bleakness.

In The Hiding Place Corrie Boom writes, “There is no pit so deep that God's love is not deeper still.”

No pit so deep that God’s love is not deeper still. Not, “There is no deep pit in God’s love.” Not, “Be saved from the deepest pit by embracing God’s love.” There is no pit so deep that God’s love is not deeper still.

C.S. Lewis knew well that Eliot was a Christian, and in spite of the acknowledgment that their common ground was vastly greater than their conflict, Lewis frequently criticized and mocked Eliot in public and in print. Lewis’ disapprove of Eliot began with the opening stanza of his first big poem in the lines, “Let us go then, you and I,/ When the evening is spread out against the sky/ Like a patient etherized on a table.” Lewis was horrified that one would dare describe something as lovely as twilight in such a grotesque manner.

And yet it was Eliot who responded to Lewis’ harshness with love. Not with retaliation. Eliot never teased Lewis because he was the more popular writer, certainly the better poet. The two were finally reconciled when they were both asked to assist the Church of England in a project to update the translation of the Psalms. Surprisingly enough, Lewis wanted to rephrase the beautiful classic verses and Eliot fought to keep them as they were. In one of the very few recorded instances of Eliot’s feelings for Lewis, Eliot exclaims, “I believe I may have just been the savior of the twenty-third Psalm!

I suppose I conclude this: there is no idea, no subject matter, no question that we must hold in reserve. I like things that are sweet, pleasant, and holy. But might holiness gain more power if we refuse to exclude anything from it? There is no pit so deep that God’s love is not deeper still.

Plan A

2009-04-10T10:30:00.000-07:00

Choose

The single clenched fist lifted and ready,

Or the open asking hand held out and waiting.

Choose:

For we meet by one or the other.

- Carl Sandburg

I was amazed to find that my recent rejection from grad school did not break my heart. Quite the contrary, in fact – it thrilled me. I say truthfully that I have never worked harder on any academic project. I read books, wrote papers, perfected bibliographies, made friends, and even traveled to Oxford in December to get the lay of the land. I was pretty sure I really wanted it.

I think the celebration I feel in my soul is testament to the fact that no measure of genuine, hard work is ever wasted. The direct goal of my efforts was not realized, but the indirect goal (or maybe these should be switched?) – to become a more educated and mindful person in the eyes of God – was. I fell in love with my topic. I got to read books about a subject I would have never explored otherwise. I met people who showed me the sort of kindness that breaks your heart in the way it needs to be broken.

The path is now completely uncertain, but instead of the crushing fear that used to suck hope and energy out of me, instead I see this as a premature opening of the starting gates. There is something in the uncertainty that makes me deliciously angry. I use that word because it’s a sensation that shares all the symptoms of anger – blood boiling, mind racing, at-the-ready, and when I go on my evening runs I cover twice the mileage and don’t even know it. I feel bulletproof. My imagination goes crazy with all the things I could go out and do with my life, and my muscles flood with adrenaline to beat down anything that will stand in my way. But….

…in my way of what?

What’s the goal? My spiritual side tells me that nothing of this world is of value because it is not eternal. My human side tells me there are endless possibilities for what I can accomplish, people I can help, ways I can advance mankind. My mind is able to find endless common ground between the two. I am primed.

I commonly use the rhetoric, “Coming up with a Plan B” when people ask me what I’ll do when my job ends in a couple of weeks. I don’t think that’s true, though.

This is Plan A.

Humans have been making great journeys as long as history records. Many of Western culture’s great foundational texts chronicle the epic voyages of heroes, such as Dante’s Divine Comedy, Homer’s Odyssey, the book of Exodus in the Bible, Virgil’s Aeneid, Bunyan’s Pilgrim’s Progress, Twain’s Huckleberry Finn, Hess’ Siddhartha, C.S. Lewis’ The Great Divorce, and so many others. One of the earliest of these articulates the fundamental question of the wanderer-seekers that followed: What does life mean? And how should we live it?

All of this journeying, though, must be directed at finding something. We seek so that we may find. The point of the journey isn’t the journey as some say. But the point of the journey is seldom the destination – the point of the journey is the thousand destinations we find accidentally along the way.

When I look at the choices ahead of me, Sandburg’s words printed above describe the state of my hands – I can feel the weight of blood in my fingers, the strength of the muscles in my palms and forearms, the elastic readiness of the tendons in my joints. The most difficult task of my days is to peel my tenacious fingers from the fist that grasps at air – to set it open, asking, “hand held out and waiting,” as motionless as a steel trap set open on a forest floor with springs and cables straining.

As C. S. Lewis says, “I am sure God keeps no one waiting unless He is sure it is good for him to wait.”

"Everything is made of one hidden stuff." - R. W. Emerson

2009-03-18T12:10:00.000-07:00

I just saw the DisneyNature preview for Earth for the third time. I am getting so excited for that movie. I’ll never forget the first time I saw the BBC Planet Earth films – I don’t really know why they’re so much different from every other nature film ever made, but they brought me to tears. Now Disney is coming in with music and storytelling to give the images a purpose – I think it will be wonderful.

A few months ago I was at dinner with some professors and administrators from Pepperdine and Cambridge, and the topic of the spiritual significance of nature came up. Pepperdine’s provost Darryl Tippens proposed a theory that estrangement from nature and the fading of religion/spirituality among young people might be linked. He observed that each time he has the chance to speak to students about powerful spiritual experiences in their lives, they almost always recall a moment at a retreat in the mountains, a time of solitude on the beach, or another quiet moment away from the city and suburbs. Perhaps if more people spent more time in nature, its mystical ability to encourage reflection and introspection would produce a generation more inclined toward the spiritual.

The other night my mom was talking about an interview she saw online with a man (I wish I knew who this was) who reexamined the sentiment that we are a group of evil humans destroying a self-sacrificing and benevolent planet as we plunder its resources for our own dark purposes. I strongly believe that the earth is worth protecting and must be respected, but man’s charter to exercise dominion over the earth and its creatures should not be forgotten. The earth is not a weak and submissive bleeding albatross – it is dangerous and volatile, and we seem to do all we can to cling to its surface in flimsy shelters to survive. It is a difficult task to try to subdue the earth, and a joy to be able to use its materials to carve out our little civilizations. As far as the earth is concerned, we and our empires are just a flash in the pan.

There is one little three-second clip on the Disney Earth preview that shows three or four dolphins peeking out through the surface of glassy, still water with an enormous blue-white iceberg in the background. It is crushingly beautiful. It strikes me that the amazing thing about this film is that it involves no sets, no actors, and no special effects. It’s all real. It all already exists, and scenes like this one occur every few seconds, completely unnoticed, all over the world. This film looks at the family relationships between animals, how they care for each other, experience distress on one another’s behalf, and, it would seem, even love each other. It is beauty that moves us and changes us, although it is just the everyday world of the critters on screen.

So now: does this mean that our distant, authoritative relationship with the animals we’re watching translates to the far away, higher beings who watch us? If we lived in some other realm and got to see shots of footage of the human world, would we still be moved and changed by the beauty we beheld? I think so. This perfectly describes the root of my desire to make movies. Movies enable us to look at our own world from a “distance” – when it’s projected onto a screen, somehow the mundane things we look at every single day of our lives become captivating and powerful. This is the special gift all artists give the world; they extract, package, and present scenes from our own world to remind us of the beauty that surrounds us every time we draw a breath.

Springtime in Los Angeles

2009-03-16T23:33:00.001-07:00

There are people who tell you they don't like Los Angeles because they "miss the seasons."

There are other people who have known the bliss of a mid-March drive down Sunset when everything is in bloom; a demonstration of spring at its very finest. There's a magic and mystery in the way it happens here. It's hidden and discreet, subtle and effortless. The air in the entire city siddenly changes. It is sweet and heavy, filled with the scent of the sticky and burgeoning blossoms that promise

the damp warmness of summer. Each time I exhale, I feel the same guilt for being wasteful I feel when I throw a SmartWater bottle into a trash can instead of recycling it. The jasmine and orange blossoms dominate, but even the new growth of greenery makes the air smell fresh and verdant. Different parts of the city host different aromas, but there isn't an inch of it that doesn't beg me to widen my chest cavity to make room for deep breaths that fill my body from shoudler to shoulder to stomach.

Tonight I had the pleasure of dining at the home of one of my oldest and best friends who lives in Will Rogers, my fantasy neighborhood. As soon as I got in my car, I cranked up the heat on my feet and slid the windows down so the air could rush through the stale air of my MINI. The hillside smelled strongly of the sagebrush that grows in the chaparral, with the blossoms in perfectly manicured front yards laced harmoniously within it. Down the winding road to Sunset, the floral scent overwhelmed the space so strongly that even the orange glow from the street lights seemed to refract differently upon the dime-sized molecules of perfume hanging in the intersection. West on Sunset to Chitauqua, the breeze moved more rapidly through my car windows, more fresh and dewy but still full of life and growing, scented with the dirt smell of the walls of ivy and bougainvillea along the winding descent. As I approached the beach, the thick salty air mingled with the above. This is the smell that reminds me of the first nights I spent in west LA in high school; I was in love and enamoured of everything, and the air I pulled through my nose seemed made to fit. This combination of smells transports me. It is rich, pleasant, and full of nostalgia that promises the secrets of the future are good.

I made the scary left turn in between the dual traffic barricades onto PCH and headed up to the 10 East, the salt, dirt, and flowers subsiding with the cold rush of cool asphalt, cars, and concrete. On nights like these even the freeway smells are crowned with sweetness. As the drive picked up, these smells all alternated as I switched to the 405 and on to the 101 North. I love this drive. I love to pass the roads that eminate from the busy freeway like ribs from a spine. Each is dotted with things I love - stores, restaurants, houses, businesses. People full of hope and trying hard, people resting on wilting laurels, people empty, and people overflowing. I think of the Jewish delis with bagel chips and matzah ball soup and pickles, the tired and noisy clientelle. I think of trendy sushi places. I see the valley spread out before me as I crest the hill just past Mulholland Drive. It's a field of dreams as far as I'm concerned. In my own mind it's easy to stick my left arm out the open window as a wing and fly out over it, loving it and making my plans for it.

As I transfer to the 101 I think about Hollywood glittering behind my tail lights as I head up north to my parents' house. I think

about my dreams for it. And I am so full of joy to skate across this asphalt red capet that unrolls for me as I coast upon it. At 73 miles per hour, this freeway is my oyster.

And this makes me reflect on my dreams. I am living them. They are already realized. Perhaps I draw as much joy from dreaming about my life and future as I will from living it. The substance of the dreams themselves may be just as important as their realization. I don't think the air will smell sweeter at some future point. Years ago I dreamt about living the way I do now, about being the person I am now, and here I am. I hope others see the days they spend 'climbing the ladder' as the full and complete realization of their dreams. Why wait? Why not live your fantasies every day? Mine certainly do not consist of a tireless sprint to an eventual, barely-attainable goal. What worse thing could there be in life than an end point? My dreams are of possibility, potential, energy, and inspiration. These things fill my soul on spring nights in Los Angeles just like this one. And as long as I breathe, I am living my dreams.

Presence

2008-12-18T17:04:00.000-08:00

What hope there is in finding someone who reaffirms your most private convictions, your deepest unspoken passions, who has the courage and opportunity and freedom to stand on the rooftops and holler out your personal treatise. Emerson says, "The young man reveres men of genius because, to speak truly, they are more himself than he is." They're called mentors, heroes. People who stand up for the things we long to find the courage to stand up for, too.

It brings me to that heartbreaking presence/absence binary. What we humans do is ache for Edenic presence. We spend our lives trying to find a place where the presence of God is with us again. We want kinetic communion with Holiness and Divinity. I think we all know that there is something terribly strange about this condition of ours; the placement of an immortal soul inside of a perishable container – I don’t think we get it. I know that I don’t.

In asking why it is that we are all here, I know that it has to be something we experience in the transcendent moments. Are they enough to justify the whole thing? And how could an entire existence be created around a few fractions of seconds of “getting it”? And are there people who never will get it? Are there people who never will transcend, through fault of their own or not? I know I have before, and I know I will again. But what do I do with the rest of my life? I understand why people renounce the world and become mystics. I want to be a mystic. And yet I love the world, and I feel so connected to it. It is a part of me.

Mom was explaining a most basic concept of string theory to me last night. Scientists can tell that there are particles even smaller than the nuclei of atoms. There is something that we cannot see that strings together little bits of matter, tiny yet inextricably bonded ropes of energy that flow and move together – connected.

There is something basic and abstract in me that understands this synaptic chord. I get it. The strings in my molecular makeup are somehow able to communicate to me their perfection. I hear a song they make that regulates the beat I move to. Because all things, in all their mass and weight, rest on these tiny threads – wrongness doesn’t really register with me. For this, I do not recoil from cruelty when I walk with it, nor am I confounded by injustice. We are all certainly woundable, but only when the world’s conflict with the strings surpasses my own understanding of them.

There is a hero in my life who sees the world just like this. In a way, I see this person as my own potential fully realized. It makes me worry that I will never be like him - that I'll get in my own way and throw stumbling blocks in my own path. This is why I tremble with frustration that I do not know which career to pursue. I wonder if it will ever take a linear form. Will it be chaotic? I hope not. I am not a chaotic person. I want to meet with success but so much more than that I want to be fulfilled. I want to do something with my life that involves presence. I want to move one step closer to the center, to do something new and different that has never been done before. And I am slowly freeing myself from obsession with magnitude – it can be small. Nobody else even has to know about it. I ache for presence.

Being Young and Doing the Right Thing

2008-10-18T17:31:00.000-07:00

How troubling it is to look at my youth and question whether I am using it to its fullest advantage. People often pacify my frustrations by telling me that I’m yet a young pup, and therefore needn’t expect too much of myself right now. Just be twenty-two – it’s okay.

But I ask, if I am not performing to my utmost potential right now, when will I start to? I find out time after time that the writers I admire most made their splash when they were in their twenties, and so many were dead in their forties. Perhaps mediocre people are fine being mediocre in their twenties, because so shall they remain for the rest of their lives. But then again who is mediocre? I have yet to meet anyone. And thus my point is moot.

I badly want to be someone who produces. I want to be creative. Prolific. I want to know what I think. I often question the relationship between my thoughts and my emotions. When am I thinking and when am I feeling? There is something that I cannot entirely support that thinks emotions are vastly inferior. I don’t know why I think that, but I do. I never want to be someone who acts on emotions and unfailingly “follows my heart,” but I don’t know why I want that. I want to be a devotee of logic and mindfulness.

Kierkegaard says that faith is absurd and uncanny, and that its binary couple is doubt, associated with the rational side.

Some ethicists say that ethics are morals born of rational thought instead of emotions, which do more to point TO faith in God than away from it (as Kierkegaard would argue). But what is rational about ethics? I think this argument depends on where you want to place ethics – I agree that ethics do point to God, but I also think that they are absurd, so I would put them in the same camp with faith (and then they cannot be disconnected from emotions). Our rational side does not point us to love and sacrifice and to do the right thing, the “ethical” thing. The rational is not the ethical. At least mine isn’t. I think the soul trained to act in love and self-sacrifice defines “rational” completely differently than the soul who thinks being rational means trying to survive. How do you define that?

I think this explains why I go crazy when I look at the course catalogue at the beginning of every semester. There are countless course titles that jump out at me because I know they would change my life. And because I am not able to take them, I am turning away from that change that might happen, for the knowledge, for that which would make me that much more of a mindful, thoughtful, careful person. There is goodness and rightness in the lectures those professors would give, in the papers I would write for those classes. And it kills me that I have to turn away from them because my schedule is too full.

That’s why I think I could get bachelor’s degrees forever. I want to learn a broad spectrum of everything. But then, also, I am only scratching the surface of the truths I’d learn. And I might not even remember them. My memory is my worst enemy – I encounter something beautiful and good and then it leaves me. And I see something horrible and evil, and I forget that, too, which is often even more detrimental.

"There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls." - George Carlin

2008-08-27T22:14:00.000-07:00

How fitting a time to begin this blog. How strange it feels to write for an audience and not omit my own cerebral meanderings. I like the progressive nature of this exercise; it's not a published piece I worked on and perfected, but rather something organic that waxes and wanes with my own fluxuating vulnerability.

Vulnerability. How like are we to the moon that reveals itself in various stages - at times an intriguing and anticipatory sliver and at others the bare-faced and cathartic full sphere. It's strange to remember each night that the light we see is nothing of the moon's but a reflection of the sun. How entranced we are when the celestial bodies align in a way that allows the sun's light to illuminate that entire bald surface. I'm sure we can each remember a time when a full moon was bright enough to reveal an entirely new noctural world in blue coolness. I remember a few times when the moonlight was bright enough to keep me awake, and I felt like it was an appointment I was obligated to keep.

How similarly we ourselves are designed. Whatever small portion of our faces we turn toward Christ is luminous, in our own perception and in that of others; how glorious are the moments when we turn our gaze directly toward our Light and see a world, cool and serene, as we have never seen it before. How t

hat reflection can bless others, showing how we have been blessed to reflect a portion of the light of God when the source is invisible.

I think also of how the dark side of the moon is always dark, meaning that even as it orbits our moon never turns its back on the sun. It is we who only see in portions the illuminated part. Might I be reminded that the fullness of light always shines directly upon me, whether I can see it or not.

This observation convicts me to make my nose the needle on my compass and turn my face always into the warming light of God. I flip through my journals (which is probably unnecessary because these moments are unforgettable) and find my delight as I read about the time another person's gaze was so steadfastly fixed on Jesus that I saw my world anew in the reflection. I hope I have let you know it. May we all take our turns at this post.

I am reminded of a gorgeous idea I heard at a C.S.Lewis conference at Oxford from an Eastern Orthodox priest named Kalistos Ware. He spoke about the human component that bears the Imago Dei, the image of God. He said that we bear the image all along, and through our journey come to attain a likeness. He alters the speech we use to describe our Christian walk: instead of saying "I am saved," he urges us to believe, "I trust that by God's grace I am being saved." We do not claim to know God, but instead rejoice in the gift that we might devote our breath and life to getting to know Him.

It was he who gifted me with the title I gave this blog - he closed his talk with J.R.R. Tolkein's concluding words in The Hobbit, "Roads go ever on." The universe continues to expand outward from the Big Bang. The grace of God only abounds. And so do these roads go on, and shall continue to do as we find our bliss in their exploration.