Love Calls Us to the Things of This World

by Richard Wilbur

The eyes open to a cry of pulleys,
And spirited from sleep, the astounded soul
Hangs for a moment bodiless and simple
As false dawn.

Outside the open window
The morning air is all awash with angels.

Some are in bed-sheets, some are in blouses,
Some are in smocks: but truly there they are.

Now they are rising together in calm swells
Of halcyon feeling, filling whatever they wear
With the deep joy of their impersonal breathing;


Now they are flying in place, conveying
The terrible speed of their omnipresence, moving
And staying like white water; and now of a sudden
They swoon down into so rapt a quiet
That nobody seems to be there.

The soul shrinks
From all that it is about to remember,
From the punctual rape of every blessed day,
And cries,

"Oh, let there be nothing on earth but laundry,
Nothing but rosy hands in the rising steam
And clear dances done in the sight of heaven."

Yet, as the sun acknowledges
With a warm look the world's hunks and colors,
The soul descends once more in bitter love
To accept the waking body, saying now
In a changed voice as the man yawns and rises,

"Bring them down from their ruddy gallows;
Let there be clean linen for the backs of thieves;
Let lovers go fresh and sweet to be undone,
And the heaviest nuns walk in a pure floating
Of dark habits,
keeping their difficult balance."

The Nocturnal Art

From "The Giant" by G.K. Chesterton

"I sometimes fancy that every great city must have been built by night. At least, it is only at night that every part of a great city is great. All architecture is great architecture after sunset; perhaps architecture is really a nocturnal art, like the art of fireworks. At least, I think many people of those nobler trades that work by night (journalists, policemen, burglars, coffee-stall keepers, and such mistaken enthusiasts as refuse to go home till morning) must often have stood admiring some black bulk of building with a crown of battlements or a crest of spires and then burst into tears at daybreak to discover that it was only a haberdasher's shop with huge gold letters across the face of it."

The Lady and the Unicorn

“I suppose that making a sandwich out of a baguette will come in good time.”

I wrote this in my journal on the first day I spent in Paris when I began my year abroad on September 6, 2002. I had been told by Great Aunt Sandy to make myself a sandwich in the kitchen and disastrously failed to construct a sandwich out of the baguette I’d just purchased. I ate all of the sandwich elements separately and quickly – it’s really not readily apparent how this delicate spongey bread can be used to support a sandwich. The entry begins, “How strange it is to be here. Air Canada flight 790, destination Paris. I’m all alone, way up here, so, so far from everything I have ever known or loved. And to think – nine long months until I see it again… I expected to feel so big and grown up and independent, but if the truth were told I have never felt littler. And so it begins.”

I had nothing to do today. I got locked out of the house last night and had to camp in the yard, so I’ve been dreamy and exhausted. Lucky, perhaps; otherwise I imagine I would have tried to do something productive and instead I just loafed around and read. Turning to my altar-bookcase that surrounds the fireplace in the family room, I selected A Year in the World by Frances Mayes. I did so in anticipation of the June first end date of my job and the completely – completely – blank slate that sits (sometimes invitingly, sometimes menacingly) on the other side. Actually, I’ll choose blank canvas instead. Blank canvas that waits on the other side of June first.

That’s just what I hope to do. Turn my slate-and-chalk Executive Assistant self back into a canvas and palette of limitless oils ready to be altered in hue, tone, consistency, combination, employ.

My September 9, 2002 entry in my year-in-France journal tells the story of my first walk down the damp aisle of the marché on the Avenue de Versailles, located a few hundred yards from my cousin Susan’s apartment on the Rue Claude Lorrain in the siesieme. I wrote about the first croissant I purchased on my own, pulled with a wooden paddle from a polished oven onto a square of thick floral paper that was placed directly in my palm. There were smells of seafood in the market; flowers coyly nestled in newspaper cones in the arms of pedestrians; the antics of my colorful European cousins; my first taxi ride spinning through the tree-lined streets and, breathtakingly, along the Seine (so nonchalantly, as if this was a route really used by jaded Parisians to commute from one place to another). With the help of Frances Mayes and the unblinking stare of the impeding block of free time, I’m reflective tonight about passion. How it grows, how it fades, why it matters, what it’s for. And just how, in fact, its pursuit can be justified in place of so many other things one feels bound to do.

That week Great Aunt Sandy took me to La Musée National du Moyen Age. “After a long walk through the labyrinthine paths in the garden carpeted in sporadically descending damp autumn leaves,” I wrote, “we ourselves flitted down seemingly endless granite steps in to the belly of a beautiful, intricate, medieval fortress – complete with gargoyles.” In her bitingly crisp South Kensington English, she commented before a display of ornate reliquaries, “meant for, you know, a bone, a lock of hair, the odd eyeball, that sort of thing. Rather morbid in my personal evaluation.”

We wandered through corridor after corridor of illuminated manuscripts, suits of armor, crowns and scepters, weaponry, needlework that presented themselves to me as portals for the imagination to travel through time to places every bit as close as those dream-worlds I’d been visiting since childhood. The rooms were dimly lit and musty, the stones enclosing them cold and ancient. I lost my breath when I caught out of the corner of my eye a circular room showcasing the famous Lady and the Unicorn tapestries – six of them, one for each of the senses, and one entitled, “A Mon Seul Desire.” My own senses – those organs I relied on to tell me truth from fantasy – had betrayed me and shown me a reality that much more closely resembled the product of my silly childish imagination than anything heretofore considered real. I was undeniably certain that this territory was familiar, oddly. No, I had never felt more alone, more uncertain of my surroundings, or more out of place, and yet something in my heart was experiencing a homecoming. Swift flashes of memory – mostly music, books, dreams – convinced me that I had been here before. Not here, but – in essence – in this state or place. Could it be – it was certainly so that afternoon - that memory, reality, and imagination are not as distinct from one another as we might believe?

I was very far from Southern California with no tie to my personal history. That moist and cool early-autumn afternoon, I felt a chamber open up inside my soul; my careful and exceptionally well-attended upbringing formed a granite foundation, but the shutters about the windows of my selfhood we unlatched and flung wide to greet things that I had known always even as I discovered them.

That night at dinner cousins Susan and Johnny (both in their 50s) and Great Aunt Sandy (elegantly mid 80s) and I sat around a tiny table in the tiny kitchen and feasted royally on beef and wine and vegetables. The rain started and stopped outside, pattering like wings on the tall chestnut trees in the courtyard outside, their highest branches just at our feet when we stood on the sixth-floor balcony. A hush fell over the table when Susan stopped to look at me, picked up her glass, and, in lucid Italian, called into the cool autumn night to my grandfather, her Zione Umberto (Uncle Robert), “Zione, come look at your beautiful granddaughter Catherine. Aren’t you proud? Come in and laugh with us again.” She toasted in the direction of the little stone Polish church (where, six years later, Aunt Sandy’s memorial service would be held – a more somber visit for an older me) and motioned for him to come in.

Unknowingly, Susan’s invitation to the spirit of my grandfather had struck the one note whose waxing resonance in my heart’s most secret chambers had driven me to make this journey. He died suddenly of a heart attack a few months before my older brother was born, and yet his presence in our home, my heart, my dreams had – has – a power over me I cannot explain. His degrees from Cambridge and Columbia had always hung in my bedroom, along with his certificate from the Foreign Service and the United States Army. His portrait was in our living room, and I used to stare deeply into the soft black eyes so full of movement and depth and relationship.

My love for Robert was an ache that filled me simultaneously with sorrow and drive. I never knew this man, and yet I could imagine him and his world into being effortlessly – an act that directed my steps and dreams more than any other “real” thing or influence. That night in Susan and Sandy’s tiny Parisian kitchen over glasses of sherry I had discovered people who had participated in the flesh in that in which I had participated in spirit for my entire life. And yet I was certain that my acquaintance with Robert was no less real than theirs. I was breathless, and I wept that night knowing that the grandfather I laughed with in my dreams was no phantom.

Isn’t it arresting when we meet people or see things that validate our imagination? Our deep longings are the source of our dreams, and they do not come from nothing.

I am learning that this is the nature of faith. Memory, longing, imagination, and reality – these are the tools we are to combine as we search for Truth. When canvases are blank and desire and anxiety fill us with fear, we might benefit more from looking backward and inward than from the impossible task of looking ahead. Faith is forged in so many meaningful ways – prescience is not one of them.

Imagine how Jesus’ friends and followers must have felt when they saw him after his resurrection. They had longed for his promise to be true; his death, though consistent with his word, convinced them that reality – the things they saw and heard and touched – was stronger that everything they had hoped for, believed, dreamed about while Christ was alive. Then in that one instant, their senses confirmed what their hearts had hoped and believed. Ah. This phenomenon has not ceased.

To turn back to the blank canvas - it is my task not to create and accomplish as much as it is to remember and believe. To keep flinging wide the shutters and seeing what old familiar dreams can shatter my meandering, fickle reality with their weight.

The Burning Ladder by Dana Gioia

Jacob
never climbed the ladder
burning in his dream. Sleep
pressed him like a stone
in the dust,
and when
he should have risen
like a flame to join
that choir, he was sick
of travelling,
and closed
his eyes to the Seraphim
ascending, unconscious
of the impossible distances
between their steps,
missed
them mount the brilliant
ladder, slowly disappearing
into the scattered light
between the stars,
slept
through it all, a stone
upon a stone pillow,
shivering. Gravity
always greater than desire.

The Terrible Self

“I think what weakens people most is fear of wasting their strength." - Etty Hillesum

I doubt that I have ever been so uncertain about what I want to “do with my life.”  By this, of course, I mean choosing a career path.  I oscillate between yearning to do everything and being sickeningly uninterested in anything; the pace of my current situation is bewildering, and I often reflect that I don’t even have the time or self-possession to want.  The relationship between my directionless ambling and the waning opportunity for reflection and prayer is obvious. 

Firstly, I’d like to address the rhetorical structure that has us expressing the means by which we cover expenses as what we “do with our lives.”  Part of me hopes my job will never be so defining.  There is so much to a human beyond the work he does.  I resent the work that runs my life, and yet I feel in some way it glorifies me.  There are essential elements that run deep; I wonder how to finesse this paradox.

The other night I heard a man talk about the divine nature of inherited work.  In the creation story in Genesis, our first picture of God pictures a being moving from resting to working.  The Spirit was, and then the Spirit began making.  And boy, did He make.  I won’t rehash the awe inspired in me by the Planet Earth series, but will note that these images (and think how much more revelatory they will become as technology advances) show me much about the character of God.  The intricacies of growth and death, reproduction, relationships, predators and prey, and the seemingly pointless displays of beauty that exceed the comprehensive capacity of the eye and must be taken in by the heart.  There is power and terror, and fragility and delicacy.  The physical world ranges the full spectrum; just as God is simultaneously everything created and was once a microscopic speck of cellular material in Mary’s womb; just as He is a pillar of fire and the still small voice quieter than a whisper.  This work of God’s is a reflection of a character, a personality, a self. 

The first thing Adam was asked to do?  Work.  Name the animals.  Exercise dominion.  Build stuff.  Make stuff.  And Eve?  Not a companion – a helper.  Work gives us the opportunity to participate in the proliferation of the self of God, and it invites us to model our own (comparatively menial, yes) creations after our self.  Oh – I do not want to miss out on this. 

There are a few outliers in my midst whose occupations do indeed contain something essential about their being.  I think of filmmakers I know, stay at home moms, those who serve the underserved, one or two of the doctors I know, maybe a horse trainer I knew once came close, a teacher.  There are some whose careers are characterized by the selfhood of the worker – ah, how I long to be one of these. 

This longing is paralyzing.  I hate the thought of taking a step toward one option that will leave part of my selfhood behind.  One path allows me to analyze but stifles the artist, another indulges creativity but abandons order, one feeds my curiosity but cuts me off from people, another overwhelms my spirit by overcrowding it with personnel and bottom lines.  I refer to Etty Hillesum as listed above: “I think what weakens people most is fear of wasting their strength.”  Weakens?  Destroys. 

This might be rooted in the mystifying human condition I’ve talked about before – a divine, eternal soul stuck inside a deteriorating flesh with only a few fatty brain cells and trembling synaptic cords to try to bring the two together.  I am intimidated by my selfhood.  It has a grandness so far beyond anything I can imagine, and I make myself crazy trying to invent some catchall scenario that will allow this divine selfhood that seems so distant to do a work that will reflect the worker. 

I think I include this quotation in every other post: “For you have created us for yourself, and our hearts are restless until they find their rest in you.”  Thank you, St. Augustine.  Tonight I use this to gain perspective on myself not just as a worker but as a work as well.  I was created.  Thus, the image I bear reflects that of my Creator.  And this – THIS is the seal I ache to press into the soft and feeble wax statues I spend my life fussing and worrying about. 

Ayn Rand chimes in, "Why do they always teach us that it's easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline to restrain ourselves? It's the hardest thing in the world--to do what we want. And it takes the greatest kind of courage. I mean, what we really want."  We really want to create with significance.  To contribute.  What we really want, in essence, is to be a part of the great work – to build something that bears the mark of the Creator whose face we wear in a way that does not submit our individuality to erasure but rather shines as a testimony to its magnificence. 

I suppose we’re left with that old instruction: seek ye first the kingdom of God.  Therein the selfhood lies.  There is the work we can do that is actually “what we do with our lives.” 

Etty also offers, “Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths.”  Sometimes I suppose that’s true.  

Desire

Our desire must be like a slow and stately ship, sailing across endless oceans, never in search of safe anchorage. Then suddenly, unexpectedly, it will find mooring for a moment.

- Etty Hillesum

Dinner

"People eat their dinner, just eat their dinner, and all the time their happiness is being established or their lives are being broken up." - Chekhov

Off Again

It’s my last Sunday afternoon at home before I take off on a month-long voyage abroad.  These adventures have become a bit of a routine – I haven’t had a summer without an extended solo trip overseas in six years.  I woke up this morning with what has become the familiar pre-trip feeling: so excited about the adventures ahead, but a frightening and frantic need to peel back the sheets to embrace the family I will soon leave.  The chaotic urgency of my need to love them is oddly silenced the moment I actually see a member of my family, the same way a huge horse can soar across a pasture in a frolicking, bucking gallop and bounce to an instant halt with its forelegs just inches from the fence.  I instantly default to playing it cool, often erring even on the side of appearing distant.  And yet my entire chest cavity seems to swim with heat and tightness as I deliver an intentionally half-hearted good morning hug, ensuring that I guard the terrible, shameful secret that my heart is breaking with love and longing. 

 

Right now I am sitting on one of the loungers by the pool in the backyard.  It’s 75 degrees outside, cool breeze blowing, ambient noise of water flowing around in the pool, occasionally the lazy and distant chug of a radial airplane engine traversing our sky space.  My brother is on the lounger next to me going through a test prep book for the entrance exam into the National Guard.  My dad is on a chair behind us (he recently crossed over to that side to follow the sliding shade from the umbrella) reading Steve Forbes’ new book that compares modern corporations to great empires throughout history (I gave it to Ian for his birthday, and dad – who reads about 50 pages a minute – swiped it up first, as he often does).  The cat is crashed out in the shady grass next to him, lying on his back with his white fluffy cat-tummy bared to the breezes.  There’s a pile of silenced iPhones and Blackberries on the table between the three of us, as well as small silver trays with empty dishes from brunch.

 

Ian just stood up and said, “Will you be sad if I go sit at the table?”  The table is about 15 feet away.  I smile and answer, “Of course not.”  But it does make me sad when he goes and the chair beside me is now empty.  I swallow it, however – I think my impending voyage for a month-long stint in the Middle East divests me of my right to keep him from his 15-foot displacement for the next half hour.  But I miss him somehow as I look over at his deeply concentrated little face over there. 

 

My mom and I spent a lovely morning together in quiet and easy conversation, intermittently confessing shy sentiments of contentment to one another.  We were geographically located in the epicenter of six or seven unfinished remodeling projects and countless others that had yet to be tackled.  We’ve had upwards of twenty people come out to give an estimate on the kitchen remodel we keep putting off.  I was sitting on a little sofa mother happened upon one day at the Jewish women’s charity thrift shop on Wilshire one day – it was used as patio furniture on the porch of the house I lived in my senior year of college and had settled in our breakfast nook when I moved back home after graduation.  Not the piece we imagined for so prominent a place in our home, but mother expresses our sentiments perfectly when she sits there with her laptop and a cup of coffee and pretends she’s on a cruise ship looking out at the backyard through the window next to her.  It’s a great little sofa. 

 

Mom says it well when she exclaims that we are “cursed with contentment.”

 

It has been a recent struggle of mine to try to examine the meaning of the phrase “full of life.”  Because of the fullness of the relationship I have with Him, I am satisfied to count the phrase “full in Christ” a synonym.  But to explore that, to give it gravity by giving it words – ah, I am inept. 

 

I look at it this way: here I sit in the same backyard I’ve sat in since I was thirteen.  From my vantage point, I see the patio table, the pool slide we were never really young enough to enjoy in this house, the now-empty flowerbed I once labored for an entire summer to fill with blossoms, and the back of our house.  As I take in the scene, my muscles twitch with the desire to dance about, swiping a mental butterfly net this way and that in an effort to capture and bottle all the memories that linger in the atmosphere of this 1/8 of an acre.  I can watch the countless backyard dinner parties like a movie montage, in addition to many anguish-wrought nights writing by candlelight at the table or in the wrought iron chairs by the ivy covered wall.  I watch myself finishing Somerset Maugham novels, flipping through Vogue, sitting in the middle of the line of all the cousins at my grandmother’s memorial service, refilling the punch bowl at my brother’s Eagle Scout ceremony, coming downstairs for lavish brunches (nobody can pull these together like Judith Whittinghill) on special or just normal Saturdays.  I can spread my arms wide and splay my fingers and somehow grab the jasmine-scented air, pulling downward and wrapping it around me like a blanket. 

 

These long summer sits in the backyard are like jumping on a trampoline.  Usually they are the scenes of dreaming, planning, building, preparing – altogether springing up and out.  But every once in a while, my bounce matches up with my fellow jumpers’ bounces just right (they have changed nothing about their bouncing pattern to bring this about), and instead of soaring up over the rooftops my knees buckle and I’m sucked into the floor with black-hole strength gravity.  I land softly, cushioned and cradled, and all upward and outward momentum is, for a millisecond, sucked out of me completely.  And then I am content, filled to overflowing with the fullness of life as I take a little break from the jumping, lying on my back as the trampoline settles to stillness and looking up at the sky.  I see that I do these adventures because I do them, not because I need them or because I am searching for something.  This little house here is teeming with life – it’s a wonder the roofbeams can contain it.  It drips out of the windows, pours out the front door.  It is life and life abundantly.  It is love that both cradles and launches, love that simultaneously crushes your heart inward like an empty coke can and bursts forth in an explosion.  Love that forgives, hopes, gives, and does not fear.  Oh, how content am I.  

See a Palace Rise From a Two-Room Flat

It astonishes me to imagine the way my life will change when the time comes to bind it with another’s.  I just returned from seeing Up – a movie that, like all Pixar flicks surreptitiously do, caught me off guard with the profundity of its sweetness.  Pixar is the one company of which I am aware that can fill our hearts and televisions with purity, make us reflect on the deeper things, challenge our imaginations with creative nuance, and still rake in millions at the box office.  Ah, world, there is hope for you yet. 

The movie was about marriage.  It was about men and what they deeply want, women and their hidden longing, and the human need to – as George Bailey described to his blushing Mary – “lasso the moon” for his spouse. 

The film begins with a quick and silent montage that tells the story of an entire marriage, from beginning to end.  The couple meets as children when the gap-toothed redheaded girl steals the boy’s heart with her vivid imagination and thirst for adventure.  As the two marry and age, about ninety seconds of footage chronicle all of the dreams the couple shares through the decades.  Some are realized, but most are not.  The man seems not to notice his wife age a day until all of the sudden she is expiring, and he is caught unawares by her sudden inability to realize the adventures they’d imagined in their youth. 

He is torn to pieces because he could never seem to make the adventure come together for her.  She had dreamt as a girl of building a house in the jungle of South America, so he sets out to grant her childhood dream after she has passed away.  He will stop at nothing to accomplish this for his bride. 

And this is the characteristic common to all men.  It is manifested in myriad ways, but men all ache to build and create, travel and accomplish, see, do, climb, and conquer – but all for the sake of the queen whose heart they covet, worked for, have sworn to protect, and, above all, love with every fiber of their being.  Men want the world for their wives. 

I saw the movie with my brother and father.  They grimaced as they watched as the husband in the film had to spend their waxing “adventure fund” on automotive repairs, to fix the leaky roof, etc.  It killed them to watch this man finally decide to take his wife to the Amazon, only to find she was unable to make the trip.  What marvelous men I live with. 

And now to women.  After he has finally accomplished his goal and physically transplanted their house to the specific place in the jungle his wife imagined as a girl, he finds a notebook of hers with new pictures inserted in the “adventures I’m going to have” section she began as a kid.  In it are pictures of their wedding, little road trips they took, nights in the family room, mornings reading by the front windows, weekends doing yard work.  These were the adventures she dreamt of.  Loving him, building a life with him, putting personal touches on their quirky house – that was the adventure of her life.  She liked to let her imagination run wild on the precipices of rushing waterfalls and in the verdant roots of steamy jungle floors, but her heart was not tied to these. 

And this is what women give: they deal tenderly with the dreams of their men.  They give him a soft place to land after he spends his day climbing, striving, building.  Don’t get me wrong – women certainly do these things too, often to a greater degree, but this is how I perceive the roles when the workday is over, the front and back doors are locked for the night, and the household is quiet.  Women see the fulfillment and adventure in building things that sometimes appear quiet and plain, but hold all the meaning our blink of life can contain.  A man wants to give his wife the world.  But a woman knows she already possess it because she has a man who will labor for a lifetime to give it to her. 

It’s stated well in that beautiful song from Cabaret:

“How the world can change

It can change like that,

Due to one little word: marriage. 

 

See a palace rise

From a two-room flat,

Due to one little word: marriage. 

 

And the old despair

That was often there

Suddenly ceases to be. 

 

For you wake one day,

Look around, and say,

‘Somebody wonderful married me.’”

 

Perhaps this will be for me someday, perhaps it won’t.  This discussion interests me as it concerns the comparison in the Bible between a good marriage and the relationship between Christ and man.  The bride-groom relationship is just like the man-God relationship in this respect, and in many others. 

The male and female roles described above coexist perfectly within the person of Christ.  On one hand, Jesus is the comforter, the one who reminds us of our constant fulfillment within his love for us.  When our dreams don’t pan out and the world disappoints us (as is nearly always does), Christ is there to present the eternal truths of love, joy, hope, and peace as reminders that all is well in spite of our frustrating circumstances.  And yet he is also there with us as we cling to rocky mountain faces, racing toward our high-dollar dreams.  He encourages us to take adventures, he blesses our petitions, he created this endless universe for us to explore, dominate, enjoy, and use.  And he longs to give it to us, to grant us our every wish, to love and nurture us, his bride. 

In Christ, as in a good marriage, we inherit the palace of God’s kingdom, be it indeed a castle on a cloud or, simply put, a two-room flat.  

Servant

Have you ever been in a situation where you're with someone you love more than your own life but you just can't find the way to say it?  Or worse, as you circle around that perfect expression this person denies you?  "Oh no you don't," or "Don't say that," or "I don't believe you," or "Someone like you could never love someone like me."  Ouch.  

Tom Shadyac is my hero.  He has boiled down the purpose of his existence to this: “I live to serve the divine idea.”

 

I am not uncomfortable calling the “Divine Idea” God, although it tracks with my theology to leave my Lord, Creator, and Sustainer nameless – He actually wanted it this way, I think.  So I would say, “I exist to serve God.”

 

Tom was the first person who was able to communicate to me exactly what it meant to pursue happiness.  In the same way he believes we vote with every dollar we spend, he also believes who choose freedom or captivity with every choice we make, every bit of energy we emit into our surroundings, and every word we speak over our own situations.  It’s amazing and true, and empowering in the way only true humility can be. 

 

I got to know Tom by accidentally enrolling in a screenwriting class he taught at Pepperdine.  After my first minutes in the same room with this man, I was hooked.  I have subsequently taken three other film classes from him.  In addition to a thousand lessons about life and meaning, Tom has taught me that the one non-negotiable for a great movie is that it must be about “One Controlling Idea.”  So of course, as we struggled through pages and pages of shaky dialogue and awkward descriptions of shots, the process naturally made us try to link every line of writing to this controlling idea. 

 

And just as all the little choices make the big choice for us about whether we shall be free or slave (as Aristotle reminds us, “We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”), so the themes of our creative endeavors compose the controlling ideas for our lives. 

 

It’s hard to imagine a scenario where servanthood embodies the fulfillment of freedom.  True, fully realized freedom.  But, ah, the bliss of bowing at the feet of the truly deserving. 

 

The deserving is you, oh Christ.  Only in service to you can we be certain that our actions are utterly right.  Only in service to you do we proclaim with unhesitating boldness that we do something worthy, something eternal.  Even as we err in our acts of service, which we inevitably do, the pursuit loses no appeal due to the grace we receive in the act. 

 

When someone says, “I love you,” we instinctively respond, “I love you, too,” with the understanding that nobody wishes to confess a feeling of love without immediate affirmation of reciprocation.  What’s worse that unrequited love?  My mother believes there is something worse.  Have you ever told someone you loved them and had them respond, “No, you don’t.”  The refusal to receive a declaration of love is far graver than the failure to reciprocate.  Sometimes, Mom responds to an “I love you” with a simple, “I know you do.”  Oh to feel your love received.  Understood.  Believed.  No more need to keep searching for the right words, to keep striving to construct the perfect description for the love that makes your heart burst and ache.  No more wishing you could only make your beloved one really understand how you feel.  To utter only, "I love you" to one who responds, "I know you do."  And you know they do.  

 

As we serve Christ, He of the incessant inaudible love song, we proclaim love for one who will receive it.  In our longing to grow deeper in our communion with our Savior, we offer praise that has a place to land.  Our relationship with Him is not just about mutual giving of love but mutual receiving of love. 

 

 I find the earthy beings and things I daily strive to serve unsatisfactory receptacles. My heart breaks for people who serve things that will never receive their love.  This is when servanthood becomes slavery.  I see many relationships where so many givers are bound in shackles to the moods of takers.  Or, beyond human-to-human relationships, I see other willing servants who are bound to the demands of an unloving culture, to coolness, to “success,” to the ridiculous requirements they place on themselves.  It is tyranny. 

 

We long to be used.  We long to contribute.  We long to be good enough.  We long to hear the voice of Truth say thrillingly, “Yes, YOU, come.  YOU are exactly what I have been looking for.”  This is why we all yearn for our spouses, for we are somehow convinced this is the only instance where you, specifically you, are the only one who can fulfill the need of another.  While good marriages come close, we need not wait for that.  This is the call of Christ.  He calls to you specifically.  He longs for you to serve Him.  He longs for you to tell Him you love Him.  He waits for you to turn your ears to that love song He’s incessantly singing to you and respond, “I know.”  Serve one who will receive your service.  Love one who will receive your love.  Bind yourself to one who will always leave you free to walk away.  Choose freedom by serving the one who is worthy. 

"And he who loses his life for my sake shall find it." Matthew 10:39 

I started a new job today.  My boss isn't Jesus, but he loves Jesus, and he lives to serve.  And thus, the hours of greuling service to this man will be blissful, for together we co-labor to serve the one who loves us.